Cisgender gay men seem to lack an understanding of trans etiquette and manners. Of course, ive dated a few lovely cis gay men, but 8 out of 10 times, our conversations lack dignity on their end. If youre gay or bi, a trans gaybi man is likely into many of the same things you are. This is the same script youd use to flirt with anyone because trans men are men. A lot of people seem to think that gay trans men are actually straight women who identify as gay trans men in order to live out their gay fantasies. Some trans women have confessed that most of the transphobic abuse theyve received in social situations has come at the hands of, not cisgender straight men, but feminist lesbians, and gay men. Trans men have less success integrating socially within cisgender gay mens communities, which tend to be more body-focused, especially in terms of being phallocentric. State that, as a result, they more commonly see gay trans men partnering with each other than with cisgender gay men. As so many gay men are disavowing us trans folks while we simply try to live our lives authentically, they will find themselves having to echo the very words in self defense that we trans. May 8, 2020 - i am fascinated by the ftm community, especially the ones who identify as fruits, pansies, fluffs, or faggots.